Marriage is one of life’s greatest commitments—and one of its greatest tests. It is not for everyone. Many enter it unprepared, thinking love alone will sustain them. But marriage demands more than affection; it requires humility, selflessness, and maturity. Before saying “I do,” it’s worth asking: am I truly ready to become one with another person?
If sex doesn’t matter to you, marriage isn’t for you.
Sex is not just a physical act—it’s a vital bond of intimacy, trust, and affection that keeps partners connected. In marriage, sex is not optional; it’s part of the emotional and spiritual glue that holds two people together. If you don’t value that intimacy, marriage will feel incomplete. Instead, surround yourself with friends, build a strong community, or even consider adoption if you wish to nurture a family. Companionship has many forms, but marriage demands sexual and emotional unity.
If you want to keep your money separate, stay single.
Marriage is not a business partnership—it’s a union. It thrives on shared goals, shared sacrifices, and shared blessings. When you treat your finances like you’re just roommates splitting bills, you build walls instead of trust. A healthy marriage means joining hands and hearts, even in money matters. If you want to keep your wallet closed, keep your ring finger free.
If you love your parents and children more than your spouse, marriage will feel like a burden.
Your partner must come first—not out of selfishness, but because marriage is the foundation on which family stands. When you marry, you leave your parents to build a new home with your spouse. If your loyalty still leans backward or sideways, the bond you share with your partner will wither. Love your family, yes—but honor your partner as your life companion. If you can’t do that, stay where your heart already lives—with your parents or your children.
If you can’t listen, stay alone.
Marriage isn’t ruled by one voice or one opinion. It flourishes when both partners are heard, understood, and valued. The stubborn and self-righteous destroy intimacy with their pride. A know-it-all may win arguments but lose affection. Listening is love in action—it says, “You matter.” If you can’t humble yourself to hear another heart, solitude may serve you better than a marriage filled with silence and resentment.
If you’re not correctable, stay single.
Marriage exposes the best and worst in us. It reveals our flaws—and demands that we confront them. If you can’t say “I’m sorry,” if you can’t admit when you’re wrong, you can’t truly love. Pride builds distance; humility builds bridges. A strong marriage doesn’t need perfect people—it needs two people willing to apologize, forgive, and grow together.
Marriage is sacred, but it is not compulsory. It’s a calling for those willing to die to self and live for us. If you want full control, stay single. If you crave constant freedom, stay single. But if you’re ready to love, serve, and sacrifice - then marriage, with all its trials and triumphs, may be the greatest adventure your heart will ever know.
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